Getting used to you.

I was listening to Pandora the other day (Ben Rector is my current favorite Pandora station), and a love song came on with the lyric, "I will never get used to you." It got me thinking.

I understand what the artist was going for- he never wants to stop pursuing her, he doesn't want to take her for granted, etc. I am for those things too, and while I understand the sentiment behind the line, I disagree with it.

So many things in society (culture, movies, music, etc.) portray that the beginning of the relationship or "the chase" as the best part, and once "you've got her" or you've been together for awhile it starts to go downhill. For a healthy, Christ-centered marriage, the opposite is true, and I am so thankful for that. It gets better as it goes on, and there is a beautiful gift in being so intimately known and loved by someone.

While I don't want to take Kley for granted because I am so grateful to have him as my spouse and partner, I do want to get used to him because I want to know him. I want to know Kley better than any other person does, and I should, because I am his wife. While knowing someone so deeply lets you in on their quirks, insecurities, annoying habits, and sin struggles, I wouldn't have it any other way, because knowing that Kley loves me unconditionally and that he will never leave me brings me such joy, peace, and security. Because Kley knows me so well, he knows all my worst qualities and he chooses to forgive me and love me anyway. That's what everyone longs for!

I think people should get used to each other in marriage, because being known so intimately is my deepest source of love on earth and paints a beautiful imagery of Christ loving the church (Ephesians 5). I feel so loved by being so intimately known, both by Kley and by God.

So Kley, thanks for loving me. For however much life we have left on earth, I'm thankful to spend it with you. I love you.